Before I say anything else, please be aware that I know that what I am about to say is what my sister Mary Ellen would call a "White Man's Problem." I know there are bigger, more serious things for all of us to think about, deal with, and work to solve. But The Tim is my current issue, so he is the topic of this post.
The Tim is a lovely person, for the most part. Like all of us, he has flaws and problems, but he is a good person and much more of a kind human than I can ever hope to be. And I have to say, he excels at gift-giving. He chooses great gifts, and always seems to have ideas.
This is largely because I am simple to buy a gift for - as a matter of fact, my mother used to claim that even if "a box of sh*t was wrapped up, it would still be a present, and you [me] would be happy." Not far from the truth. But The Tim always gives nice gifts that show that he took the time and made an effort to get things he knows I like.
I am a person who truly LOVES to give gifts! Small gifts, big gifts, silly gifts - if I know someone will like something, I can't wait to give it to them. And giving gifts to my loved ones is even better.
And here, my friends, is where The Tim is a problem. He is one of those people who, if there is something he'd like to have, and it is affordable, goes ahead and buys it. Making it very hard to buy him a gift.
Our anniversary is October 28. His birthday is November 18. Christmas is December 25. You can see why this is frustrating for me.
He is extremely appreciative of knitted gifts. But he has told me that he has enough socks, scarves, hats, and mittens and doesn't want/need more. He buys his own clothes. He works in a bookstore where he gets a nice discount, so buying him books, CDs, etc. is out since he already has the ones he wants. A few years back, I was thrilled when I thought to get him an MP3 player. That has since died, and he replaced it himself. He likes cooking and baking, but there are only so many gadgets or cookbooks that you can buy, and even more importantly, that we have room to store in our small house.
We aren't talking about someone who is interested in many "guy" things - sports, cars, or the like. Occasionally, he will tell me something specific to get. Other times, he'll hand me something, and say "give this to me for my birthday" etc., Which is great, since I know it's something he really wants. But it certainly spoils any surprises or mystery surrounding gifts.
And so, here I am, less than a week away from his birthday. I have purchased one thing he specifically requested, but am saving that for Christmas, since it was kind of a big-ticket item. I told him I'd take him out to dinner, and that will be fun.
But having presents to wrap is a whole lot more fun, if you ask me.
White Man's/Woman's Problem, indeed. :-)
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