I am not a person who claims to be "fashionable" or "well put-together." Which is not to say that I am not interested in my appearance.
Part of my appearance that makes a huge difference to me is my hair. As a child, I longed to grow it and have beautiful, lustrous curls. I was certain that my mother was evil, as she insisted it stay relatively short, and forced me to endure home permanents that always ended with me looking like a poodle. (Though she was always pleased.) When I was old enough to be responsible for it myself (meaning I could wash and comb it myself), I was still sure that I would someday wake up with amazing hair.
My mother had extremely thick, wavy hair. My sisters each had thick, wavy hair. My mother and middle sister's hair color was dark brown. My oldest sister had auburn hair. My hair was fine, stick straight, and blonde. Much later in life, I realized that I inherited the kind of hair my father had. As a child, this did not occur to me, since he always wore a crewcut.
So anyhoo, at a certain point in my life, I accepted the fact that a) my hair was straight and would always be straight; b) that it was so fine, when it got any length at all, it would separate on my scalp, making me look like I was on the express train to Baldville; c) even though I want my hair to look AMAZING, I am not willing to spend time working on it for such a result; and d) when it is the least bit warm, I cannot stand to have it on my neck or face. This led to the realization that short hair was for me.
For any female readers I have to ask - have you ever tried to get a nice, short haircut? You'd think you were heading to the stylist and asking them to cut open one of their veins for you. I've decided that I really like short hair, and that, especially during the summer, the shorter - the better.
The problem? Finding a stylist who will give me a short haircut. I have been told at least 100 times that if my hair is too short, people will mistake me for a man. My response is, if they do, that's their problem, and I.Don't.Care.
Ah, but the stylist does. And every time I read about women with short hair, it's as if they are somehow diseased, or trying to reconnect with being a little girl. The writer usually assures us, the readers, that said women will (phew!) be growing their hair long again, so they can look better, and more feminine. I even had a female friend tell me once that "all women look better with long hair."
Don't even get me started on that one.
So, besides recent stylists that I have tried, quitting work when they have a baby, I've been searching for someone who will just cut my hair short but leave me looking human! As a bonus, if they did not take it as a personal affront, that would be nice too. I am astonished that it's so difficult - and this is in a large city with a bazillion salons of every type.
This past Friday, I tried salon #4086. I walked in, told the guy* what I was trying to do, and guess what? No grief about short hair! As a matter of fact, he said, "Well, with summer coming, we'll work on getting it to look good and be short." I wanted to ask him if it was a set-up or something, since he was offering no resistance, and did not take it as a personal insult that I wanted a short haircut. But I decided to just go with it, and see what happened.
He took a previous butcher job (complete with bald spots!), and actually made it all look like a hairstyle. Then he said, "I fixed it up as much as I could, but as it grows in, we can work on getting it to look nicer."
I love him. And I have short hair. And no more bald spots from bad cutting. Please do not wake me if I am dreaming. Unless you are going to compliment me on my SHORT HAIR.
*The last time I had a person who "got" me who cut my hair (or did any other things with/to it), it was a male. I forgot this until last Friday. Coincidence? You be the judge.