Today, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that same sex marriage is legal in all fifty states.
I was raised by a married couple who were male and female. First and foremost, they wanted us to be good people, with good values. They were religious and they were spiritual, but they were also realistic and worldly. They expected nothing less from us.
When I was a kid, I didn't really know or pay attention to whether or not anyone was homosexual (the term "gay" didn't apply at that point), and I do not remember my parents talking about it at all. As a teenager, I remember being shocked when my mother said something about one of their friends being homosexual. When I asked who it was, she said it was none of my business.
I am not a perfect person by any means, but I have to truly say that it never even crossed my mind to care if someone was gay or straight. I dislike a lot of people, but that is not one of the determining factors. I have never ever felt threatened when I was around someone who was gay, nor have I worried that their existence was a danger to my morals, values, or marriage.
I used to work with a guy who lived with his female partner for fifteen years when I met him. He was really upset when our employer changed their benefits so that gay couples could share benefits, because they were not offered to opposite sex partner couples as well. I pointed out that all he would have to do to get those benefits would be to get married, and he said that marriage was a meaningless thing, and he was never getting married. I said that he and his partner could go to a justice of the peace, get married, and the only thing that it would have to mean would be they could share benefits. I pointed out that gay couples were not allowed to do this no matter what. He was not in agreement. But you know what? We somehow managed to continue working together and we got along, even though I thought he was a jerk, and I'm sure he had his own thoughts about me.
I was raised Catholic, and though I don't spend a lot of time in church now, I still identify as one. Maybe it's because I attended a Jesuit college, where the most important thing we learned was how to think. I found out that among clergy, there was as much difference of personal opinion as there was among the general population. Truth be known, many of the local parish priests felt that the Jesuits were a really suspicious group.
I guess what I'm saying is that I am glad that anyone who wants to get married can now do so legally. And even if your individual religious beliefs do not embrace the idea, and it makes you uncomfortable, it's still the way things are as of today. Believe it or not, it won't change my day-to-day existence at all - everyone I know will still be whoever they were yesterday.
I think the Supreme Court ruling is a good one. I am thrilled for those who fought long and hard for the right to marry, and the other rights and benefits that come from being in a legal relationship.
But mostly, I just plan to live my life. As I hope everyone else will be allowed to do.
Rainbow crosswalk in Philadelphia