So that you know from the get-go, this post has nothing to do with knitting, reading, or our vacation, and mentions belief systems. So you have been warned. It's just something that has been on my mind for a few days, and I want some opinions if you care to share.
We have a neighbor who lives down the street who is truly a nice and lovely person. I mean, genuine. Not someone who grates on you. She is kind to every person and creature in the neighborhood, and truly caring.
This past Monday, I ran into her on my way home from work. I hadn't seen her for most of the summer, and she expressed sorrow at hearing that our Doodle Dog had died. She said how he always seemed so happy, and was so friendly, and that she missed seeing him. I said that we were heartbroken and still missed him terribly.
Then she said, "I'd like to tell you that there is something to believe in, and that you will see him again. But there isn't, so he is just gone."
WHY WOULD YOU SAY THIS TO SOMEONE? Even if I agreed with her (and frankly, I don't, but that is neither here nor there), I still found this extremely insensitive and rude. I felt like I'd been slapped in the face. I think I murmured something about having to get home and walked away, but I have been feeling so hurt since then.
Whether or not you believe in God, Goddess, gods, clouds, flowers, or nothing at all, I don't think it would ever be appropriate to say something like she did. If I had asked her, maybe that would be different, but I didn't and I had said nothing beyond what I already mentioned here.
Then I also wondered, would she say the same thing to someone who had lost a human family member? I hope not. I do know that a few years back, her husband died, and perhaps she got tired of people telling her they would see each other again. That is her business not mine.
The whole thing still upsets me. Do you think I'm being oversensitive? If I am, I can't really help it, it's how I am feeling, but I am curious to know if anyone else would feel hurt by this kind of comment.
I promise not to keep harping on this, but I just wanted to throw it out there for your consideration, if you are still reading this post.