Most of a Lifetime

October 28, 1978

That is the day we got married.  Today marks the 41st anniversary for us.  And that seems crazy, because as the subject line says, it's most of a lifetime.  During those years, there have been so many ups and downs, joys and disappointments, that remembering every one is impossible.  But they are all there, and have made our lives what they have become.

Since that day:

2 canaries, 10 cats, 2 dogs

6 apartments, 1 house

2 masters degrees

3 cars

12 nieces, 2 nephews; 6 great-nieces, 4 great-nephews

4 states, and the District of Columbia

3 cancers

3 parents, 1 sibling died

a million tears

a bazillion laughs

... and who knows what else?

Life, and marriage, are unpredictable.  The big things are outnumbered by the small things, some of which just weave into the fabric, and become indistinguishable as individual events.  But suddenly you realize that all of them have been yours, for better or worse, and that 41 years have gone by.

The Tim and I are lucky.  We have each other, and even if a lot of the time we drive one another crazy, and do not always like one another, neither of us wants to be anywhere else.  We've spent most of a lifetime together, and even when things are bad, it's all good.